Welcome, I’m Duffy.
I’m a wife, mom, sister and daughter
business owner
fitness teacher
bible study teacher
youth group leader
prayer warrior
dancer
volunteer
mentor
friend
I’m also a child of divorce and have experienced it at every stage of my life. But what I really want to define me is the good, faithful, and generous love of a God that continues to pursue me for His glory and my good.
Here are a few things you will hear on repeat if you spend much time with me.
Wrap some Truth around it.
John 14:6
Find your satisfaction in God 1st.
Ps 90:14
So That…
Phil 4:6-9
My Story as a Child of Divorce – Start Here
I am a child of divorce. I have been through my parents’ divorces in almost every stage of life. 4 times. Age 5, 18, 30 something x2 It was not fun at any age. Every broken relationship leaves a mark. Divorce #1 as a small child. My birth parents separated when I was…
Redefining Home
I had this vision of a place to call home where a mom and dad loved each other and worked together for my good. I think this is God’s plan for man and woman to come together to procreate so that His people will share about Him with the world around them. But…
To the Spouses of a child of divorce
Today I am celebrating my 26th wedding anniversary. This feels like a huge accomplishment. I have now surpassed my parents in their longest marriages and I have officially been married for more than half my life. It may seem weird to celebrate those things but coming…
So That… the answer is already there
This last bit of news and ah ha of my dad coming to understand his actions and apologizing to my mom has brought lots of thoughts. I feel like a 5 year old again asking, Why God? Why didn’t you fix it for their sake? Why didn’t you fix it for me? Why did they have to…
Beautiful Scars
I can’t get the strongest dream out of my mind, but it seems to totally fit. The night before, I had some sweet time with a couple of friends and they just randomly asked me a question about my family and my family dynamics and my dad and so I ended up telling…
2.9 Why does the pain come back so easily?
So the last few months have been exhausting. I thought that writing this was meant to be an encouragement to the young fearful woman that I WAS. That by sharing my struggles maybe the Lord would use me to draw someone into a deeper relationship with Him because I…
Delayed Healing
As I share my goal of writing this with my family I get unique responses. You see it is not just my story. It is our story. I am sharing my perspective but it is not just my story. I want to protect my family even those that are no longer in contact with me. Some of…
Strangers on a plane can relate
Traveling on a plane in Feb of 2024, and the guy next to me asks me what I am working on. Surprisingly, I told him, a book about being a child of divorce. The lady on the other side of me asks me to explain it a little more. I shared a little and it opened the door to…
To the divorcing parents – from a child of divorce
You made the choice to be married. You made the choice to have children. You are now divorced whether it was by your choice or not. You can choose now to love your children by respecting their parent – Your EX. That may sound impossible but for the sake of your…
2.2 Am I doomed to the same outcome?
I saw in my daughter that she was willing to engage in a debate and healthy conversation because she wasn’t threatened that the relationship will end if they disagree. On the opposite side her boyfriend came from a divorced family that continues to struggle with…
1.9 Do I have to forgive my parent?
The short answer is yes. For your good and for His Glory. I know this is not what you want to hear. Let’s look at this together and see why. Believe me I know that it feels safer to not forgive that parent. The hurt and anger have become a safeguard to keep you from…
1.8 Do my parents still love me?
This is a hard question to answer without knowing all of your details. My own parents’ divorces tells me that it’s not that my parents didn’t love me. The truth is they didn’t always choose my best interest. The pain and fear in their lives clouded the way they…
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