As a teenager and as a college age student and even as an adult I asked this question. Not so much as a child because I didn’t know enough at three and five to make those decisions. But as an adult I wondered what I could have done even as a child.
Is there anything I could’ve done?
Could I have encouraged them to work through it?
Could I have told them what it would mean to me?
Could I have been easier to deal with so that they didn’t fight?
They made choices to end their relationships based on either their hard hearts or other factors that played into it and it wouldn’t have mattered what I had done.
The hard reality is that there is not anything you could have done either. Because it wasn’t your fault and therefore it’s not up to you to save it.